How to surprise your long distance boyfriend with a visit: complete guide

If you decided to prepare for your partner the ultimate surprise that all long distance couples dream of, don’t you think you would forge an unforgettable memory in his memory?
You may have already asked yourself the question: how to surprise your long distance boyfriend with a visit?

Let me set the scene: you are surfing on Youtube as usual, to relax after your work day. You browse through the dozens of videos that appear before your eyes, the mouse in your right hand.

Suddenly, a video catches your attention: the one of a young woman who surprises her boyfriend by paying him a surprise visit, in his country. After watching it from beginning to end, your decision is made: you want to do exactly the same. It’s so romantic!

If you’re in a long distance relationship, you know that renewal is essential. You know that seamless communication is an advantage. You know you need to be in a fulfilling relationship.

But if on top of that, you know exactly how to plan this kind of surprise, then you’re taking your relationship to the next level.

The problem?

It’s hard to plan a trip like this in secret. One tiny mistake and it’s the end.

And all it takes is for you to forget that one little thing and your whole plan falls apart like a house of cards. You can hope to keep the second floor intact and make up for it, but you’ll have a hard time.

So when you set out to plan a surprise as big as this one, you might as well have all the cards in hand.
And I’m going to give them to you in this complete guide.

Each step must be done in a precise order. It’s important to read and implement each step before moving on if you’re afraid of screwing up. You can think of several steps at the same time.

That’s what I recommend.

Some of them are even closely related (like the first two, for example).

Step 1 : Before your departure

This first part will be dedicated to everything you have to prepare before going to the airport. This is the biggest part of the work! Read carefully all the points. All of them must be validated against each other.

Determine how long you will be there

How to surprise your long distance boyfriend with a visit without thinking about it? It is impossible! If you come for a few days or a few months, you will change his way of life.

It is also a question that he will ask you from the first second after hugging you. It also helps you get organized. This is the first question you should ask yourself, before the « when ».
Can you have some free time to travel, what activities will you prepare thoroughly…

You can plan only one flight and then tell us. Make sure your boyfriend doesn’t mind. Some people like to control everything! I’ll talk about this point a little later.

Problems it avoids:

• No budget surprises.
• Your partner’s life stays the same (especially if he is still methodical and likes to be in control)

Congratulations, you’ve just laid down your first two cards!

Know his schedule and set a date for the surprise

There is no point in scheduling a date until you know his schedule.

What would you do if after you’ve set everything up, he tells you he has a mandatory date he’s been waiting for 6 months, or a party for his best friend?

Knowing if he is free the day you arrive is crucial. You will choose your arrival day according to his availability.

I once delivered brownies to Kyomi by surprise. I asked her the week before if we could schedule a video call at the time the delivery guy was supposed to arrive. I was able to see her reaction live and it was great!
This was possible because I knew his schedule, and then I set a date and time for the delivery

Problems it avoids:

• You don’t go out of your way for nothing
• You avoid a huge disappointment if he is unavailable

Have accomplices in your family or friends

If you want your surprise to work perfectly, you absolutely need accomplices. This is the key!
If you don’t, you are much more likely to have a problem. With accomplices, you control your surprise. You leave nothing to chance. You are the master of events.

Problems it avoids:

• You leave less to chance
• You save time and ease of execution
• You can organize a bigger surprise than you could ever hope for
• It opens up opportunities that you may have missed
• Accomplices can alert you to problems or unexpected events

Have a purpose for your coming and your surprise

Preparing a surprise like this is great. Countless people in long distance relationships dream about it. But avoid making a surprise for the sake of making a surprise. Finding a reason for your coming spices up the trip.
Like a birthday, an event… Think romantic!

Problems it avoids:

• « Coming for the sake of coming »
• Having to think about a program of activities from day to day
• Having a vague and imprecise objective.

While I help you know how to surprise your long-distance boyfriend with a visit, the « Why » is more personal.

Be sure of your move

Some people hate surprises. There are many reasons for this:

• It makes him feel bad that you are making decisions without his permission
• He has difficulty accepting the unexpected and letting go
• He feels confident when he is in control

So think carefully before you embark on this project. Be sure he will enjoy it!

Problems it avoids:

• You will save time, investment and energy
• You avoid doing all this for nothing
• You are sure to aim right and avoid discomfort

To be sure, ask your family or friends. They should know! If not, organize a « mini-surprise » and see how he reacts. You can also use a game as an excuse to ask him.

Knowing his love language is also an avenue I encourage you to explore.

Choose a departure date

Things are slowly starting to fall into place. Your house of cards has a nice solid floor, but nothing has materialized yet. That’s just as well, because buying your plane ticket will take care of that!

How to surprise your long distance boyfriend with a visit when you buy your ticket plane? It’s complicated. Fortunately, there are solutions.

You have two options. It’s up to you to choose which one works best for you:

• Buy your ticket once all the steps before have been validated; and then prepare the modalities of the surprise on D-Day
• Prepare absolutely everything in advance, and then buy your ticket. In this case, you must read and apply everything you will see in the rest of this article BEFORE validating this step.

If you respect these recommendations, your surprise will be successful and incredible. The rest is just detail, if I may say so.
This is the cherry on the cake. The little digestif offered after the meal. Keep in mind that the most important thing is that you came.

Important:
Before buying your plane tickets, call your partner to be sure that the plan is operational. The most important thing is to know if your boyfriend will be free on the date you have set.

As soon as the points you have read so far are basically respected, and you are 100% sure, go ahead!

Be careful though, if you prepare your surprise a long time in advance (more than 6 months), wait a few months before taking your ticket. Events can change. But if you plan to come in 1 month, then go for it!

You are ready to go! Now that you have organized your trip, there are three essential steps to take:

• Organize yourself for the D-Day
• Create a scene to reveal yourself
• Avoid stupid mistakes

Step 2: From the airport to the surprise location

All this second part is going to rely on the help of your accomplice! I will explain you the steps to put in place so that your partner doesn’t suspect anything and hallucinates when seeing you; the stupid mistakes to avoid and how to catch up easily in case of blunder.

You can do it alone if you don’t have accomplices.
The risks are just higher, especially if you don’t know your boyfriend’s routine inside and out.

All the steps are intertwined. Each one of them, depending on how you organize yourself, has consequences on the others. So take them all into account!

Know the context of the meeting

This is the most important element! It is also the most difficult to explain because it is really different and specific to each person.

It is vital to take into account the context for the surprise to work since it will directly influence the way your boyfriend will discover that you are physically there.

• Will there be a crowd?
• Is the doubt already present in his mind, without making a connection with you?
• Will it be pitch black or will it be under a blazing sun?
• Is there an event planned? (Birthday, family reunion…)
• Will you be able to be in constant contact with your partner to manage the timing?

Problems it avoids:

• The intervention of an external element not taken into account
• The risks that the surprise fails
• A shaky organization
• Being completely disoriented in case of unexpected events

Will the surprise happen on the first day or later?

Why is this?

If you arrive at the airport at 3:00 am or 11:00 pm, it can change your plans. You must think about it.

There are two main cases:

• Your surprise is the same day of your arrival. It’s up to you to see with your partner how you organize yourself. This is the easiest.
• Your surprise is not the same day as your arrival. You will have to find a place to sleep, and especially to continue to speak with your partner without him suspecting anything! The longer a lie lasts, the less credible it is. I will give you the most common mistakes that you can easily avoid at the end of this article.

So keep in mind your arrival time, and how you will organize yourself.

Problems it avoids:

• Unexpected expenses (if you have to sleep in a hotel, for example)
• Unnecessary stress
• Rushed organization

You have read 30% of my article!

To discover the rest, I invite you to go directly to my blog, dedicated to international long distance relationships. You juste have to clic here!

Enjoy your reading!