How to show my love in
long distance relationship: pass the quiz to improve it!
Long distance relationships are magical.
The beginnings are unforgettable.
How to show my love in long distance relationship is so easy ! It’s like being in a Disney movie, where you’re the main character!
You get to know each other, you spend your days glued to your phones, smiling stupidly.
You only want to meet for the first time this person who has everything in common with you. Or to see her again.
But the more time passes, the more difficult it becomes to show your love.
The great Love was naturally present at the beginning of your relationship, but the routine started to settle with the days, and the distance became unbearable.
Your partner blames you for not showing your love enough. He doesn’t feel « special » to you.
He thinks you don’t care, that it doesn’t matter to you.
You are doing things that you feel are right, but they are not enough for your partner or they don’t understand them.
You are lost. You are even afraid that your long-distance relationship will end abruptly.
And little by little, your partner loses hope.
This is a situation that countless LDR couples encounter. But don’t worry! You can do something about it.
The problem is not your personality, or your will.
The problem comes from somewhere else, and the shot can be easily adjusted.
And I’ll tell you how, right now.
How to show my love : Pass the test !
I have prepared a quiz for you to know your couple better, based on the languages of love. You don’t understand anything? Don’t panic:
In less than 15 minutes, you will understand how to communicate better with your partner, and how to show your love very easily in a long distance relationship without misinterpretation.
How to show my love in a long distance relationship: pass the test here!
The 5 love languages in a long distance relationship
I’m going to tell you about the 5 love languages, a recognized best-seller written in 1992 by Gary Chapman. This is a book that Kyomi read at the beginning of our long distance relationship, because she wanted to improve our communication.
She devoured it with great interest, looking for advice and solutions to our problems.
Personally, I didn’t know about it until she told me about it.
Now I spend my nights reading it, page after page. Well, I read it in Spanish. It takes me a while ahah.
Gary Chapman presents us his theory of the languages of love. There are 5 of them:
Words of affirmation
There are many ways to give positive reinforcement. You can give compliments, acknowledge your partner’s strengths, encourage him or her in what is important to him or her, give recognition by thanking him or her. If your partner speaks this language, remember that words are important.
It’s the easiest language for a long distance relationship.
Receiving gifts
The gift is a symbol! It’s not about money (it can be free). Gifts without a context (i.e. without an occasion, such as an anniversary, holiday or other) are even more valuable. Gifts can be material or immaterial. One can consider that giving one’s time is a gift.
Acts of service
It’s our language to both of us! It’s about helping your partner with the obligatory tasks of everyday life, not necessarily fun but you have to do them. The service has an even greater value when it is done by your own initiative, before it is asked of you.This is a difficult language to apply in a long distance relationship, but not impossible.
We are the proof!
Quality time
How to show my love in a long distance relationship with quality time? It is about being together or sharing common activities. An activity includes anything that interests at least one of you. The goal is not what you do, but why you do it: to share a moment together and feel that you are important to each other
Physical touch
Hugs, kisses, holding hands in the street… this language encompasses all the physical contact you can have with your partner.
I won’t hide it from you. This love language is the most difficult to apply in a long distance relationship.
Simply because it’s impossible to have regular physical contact. For me, it is impossible for these people to even start a long distance relationship. The pain would be too great without physical touch, for them.
Some languages are easier to use than others in a long distance relationship. One of them is even contradictory for me with this kind of relationship. I think it is impossible for someone with this language to start a long distance relationship. It’s lost in advance.
How to show my love in a ldr: know your love language
Gary Chapman explains that each person « speaks » a different language. Each person’s sensitivity changes according to each language.
And that’s why when we express our love in one language, our partner doesn’t necessarily understand it (and vice versa!).
In his bestseller, translated into more than 50 languages, he teaches us firstly to know our language (if you instinctively hesitate between several), and secondly to speak the language of your partner.
This book is for us an unparalleled reference because everything is very well explained.
- The sentences are simple and straight to the point
- There are many real and concrete situations
- You can immediately put into place the advice that you learn
I strongly recommend it, it is an essential book to have in your library. It really is!
I wouldn’t do it if I wasn’t 100% convinced of its content.
5 good reasons to do this quiz
- It is the only one that focuses on long distance relationships
- You will know your partner better, and how to show him your love
- The communication in your relationship will be better
- Your partner will be grateful to see you involved in your long distance relationship
- By downloading the summary sheets, you’ll never run out of ideas for showing your love.
Crucial!
