6 essential lessons learned from 6 LDR Movies on Netflix

Do you know what makes me tick in life? What makes me want to get up every morning with a smile on my face?

Mixing business with pleasure:

• Doing Parkour, to strengthen myself physically and have a good time with my friends
• Devour my favorite series (Breaking Bad) for the 7th time in Spanish, to speak more fluently with my girlfriend’s parents (because they don’t speak english or french)
• Discovering Long Distance Relationship movies on Netflix, to spend time with her and improve our long distance relationship

You may be lazy to watch these movies:
Then you’ve come to the right place. This is the perfect article for you. I’ll take you by the hand and detail point by point what lessons you can learn to enchant your long-distance relationship, like in a Disney movie.

Or maybe you’ve already seen them, but don’t know what was useful for your relationship?
Stay calm, I’ve made your job easier. You’ll leave stronger than ever, with peace of mind for the future.

Either way, you should read the rest of this article.

I’ll explain how LDR movies on Netflix can :

• Save you from arguments
• Make your relationship last longer
• Turn distance into a powerful ally

Note: To find out the synopses, our reviews and our ranking, you can read our Top Best Long Distance Relationship Movies on Netflix. This one is guaranteed to be spoiler-free. We promise!

1. The half of it — Catfish are everywhere… and can destroy you psychologically

This LDR movie on Netflix is a case apart. But terribly instructive.

As a reminder, Paul asks Ellie to write love letters to Aster for him because he’s really bad at it. Little by little, Ellie becomes attached to Aster because she realizes that they have more in common than she imagined.

The big problem is that Aster is completely unaware, thinking that Paul is hiding behind those words.

So it is not a question of a long distance relationship as we are used to know them. But here is a conclusion that can be drawn.

And it is essential for young LDR couples who are still at the very beginning of their relationship. Read it carefully if you are in this situation!

Keep in mind that anyone can be the author of the letters and messages you receive. Some people have no qualms about lying to you and hiding the truth. I don’t want you to break down in tears over this. That would be dramatic.

There are so many stories like this on the Internet…

• You meet a beautiful, engaging person with an incredible personality
• This person is interested in you like never before: it is so rare nowadays.
• Days go by, and the feeling continues to ignite your discussions.
• It is so beautiful that you have doubts. « There has to be a scam », you think, laughing and rolling your eyes…

What if there really is something to it?

Quickly make sure that you are not a victim of a catfish and that the person you have been talking to for days is really who they say they are.

The best solution: the video call

No way to cheat here! If you want to be 100% sure of his identity, ask him to write your first name on his hand.

For the more pragmatic, pretend you are playing a LDR game and challenge him to show you his ID card.

And don’t wait until you feel your heart racing to act, because it’s already too late. The longer you wait, the greater the risk of being disappointed.

Or worse: long-term psychological damage.

The next lesson to learn is a textbook case (even if it’s not the best LDR movies on Netflix): this is why distance is beneficial in a couple.
And the next time a toxic person tells you « long distance relationships are crap », you’ll know how to shut their mouth in a snap.

2. Distance is more than just an ally: it’s a savior

Here’s how the long distance relationship is introduced in the movie Always Be My Maybe:

Sasha has become a famous chef in the United States and is in a relationship with her manager. They are even set to get married in the coming months.

Unfortunately, her boyfriend asks her to postpone the wedding because he has a great job opportunity in India. Together, they decide to act as if they were not a couple and get married 6 months later.

They see it as a 6 month bachelor/bachelorette party, not a one night stand before saying yes for life. They even go so far as to set up a « No contact rules ».

They both take this decision, even if we learn later that Sasha feels devastated by this choice, as if she had given her agreement to something that she cannot bear.

It will only take a few weeks maximum for Sasha to break up with him, understanding from a distance that they were together for the wrong reasons. It was not a mutual love that brought them together, but the professional opportunities of each.

In short: the distance allowed Sacha to understand that his relationship (and his future marriage) was doomed to failure.

So what happened in his head to come to such a conclusion? Here are my answers:

• Her boyfriend absolutely never started conversations again
• The only time he broke the « No Contact Rules » was to talk about a professional project
• She saw on social media that her boyfriend was hanging out with other women (all famous).

This outcome was inevitable, for the simple and good reason that Sacha accepted a free union without agreeing. We understand him when she cries in the storeroom of his restaurant.

In the end, the distance was the best thing that ever happened to Sasha

Do you really believe that his marriage would have lasted once they were together?
The distance allowed him to take a step back from his relationship.

I bet it’s happened to you:
You take a selfie. You think you look beautiful in it! Incredibly beautiful. A few hours later, you unlock your phone and launch Instagram. You choose your photo, but before you press « Publish », you hesitate.

There’s that detail you just noticed:
The slightly dull light, that wayward spike in your hair, or that group of people walking behind you

What you missed the first time around becomes obvious. That’s the magic of hindsight.

It happened exactly the same with Sacha. The fact that he physically moved away and imposed a « No Contact Rule » gave him the opportunity to take a step back from his relationship.

And it is so much better!

In any case, she would have discovered it. Sooner or later.
And if she hadn’t been in a long distance relationship, she would have found out after she got married and would certainly have been inconsolable.

I can’t imagine what couples go through when they make the decision to divorce. A waking nightmare.

Now we will talk about a problem that is imposing on absolutely all LDR couples. No one can escape it.

3. Sweet & Sour — Routine Kills

This is the main topic of our blog: blowing up the routine in long distance relationships. We’ve made it our fight!

The movie Sweet & Sour is a textbook case. Here, the LDR is set up gradually.

Hyuk & Da-eun live together

Then they spend a night apart

Then a few days

And gradually, it is weeks without seeing each other.

An interesting parallel between two LDR movies on Netflix

When Hyuk decides to tell his girlfriend that his job is hours away by car, and that they might spend some time apart, his decision to accept the job is already made.
However, there is no argument when Da-eun finds out.

But even in this movie, the relationship turns into a disaster. And it is entirely because of the routine.
They did not know how to renew and adapt to the constraints imposed by the distance:

• They only talk about banalities when they get together
• The traffic jams slowly kill Hyuk’s emotions and feelings
• Fatigue from their respective work causes them to not act

And the consequences are dramatic:

• They blame their personal problems on each other
• They have difficulty to find moments of complicity, where they are both available
• They are so tired that they don’t do anything together. Worse: when they try, they force themselves

The last minutes of the film are terrible for Hyuk, who finds himself alone. He lacks so much perspective on his situation that he blames his boss for breaking his relationship, without thinking about the vicious circle of routine that has been imposed, little by little.

It is easy to break the routine, even from a distance. But never underestimate it.

It is like dust: it will always come back, day after day, if you do not act.

So take the lead, and stop it from happening! We’ve created two programs to help you: a list of 26 challenges, and a week’s worth of tips and games that will get you out of your comfort zone.

Think of them as the weekly sweep that you do.

And above all, put things in perspective. My next explanations will help you do that.

Want to discover the 3 lastlessons from 3 others LDR Movies on Netflix ?

You can read my full article directly on my blog, by clicking on this link.

You will also find a huge amount of information on how to manage your long distance relationship, if you are in that situation.